Speech Comm

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

[She looks sleepy, but she's jacked up on coffee and on a roll. Expect questions. Lots of questions.


Ok, we've played games, now let's bring it back...honesty and communication. Tell me what you understand about honesty and it's role as relates to influence, manipulation, friendship, trust and reciprocity? How do we recognize honesty? In what ways do we try to assure the honesty of those we communicate with? And what about body language? Is body language honest?

And now tell me how this fits with sender/message/receiver.

Comments

[anextimeagent.livejournal.com]

Jack shows up for class and participates in a cheerful and intelligent manner.

[Yup, just about out the door.]

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

[She presses him with questions, unrelenting, until he gets to where she wants him to be...whether he realizes it or not..]

((have fun!))

[notcalledlizzie.livejournal.com]

You're honest when you tell the truth to the best of your knowledge. It's important for trust, because being honest is seen as being fair. You expect someone to be honest to you if you're honest to them, although that's not always reciprocated.

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

Tell me about the breakdown of reciprocity...when you realize someone is lying, what does that do to S/M/R?

[notcalledlizzie.livejournal.com]

It depends if you expect the person to lie to you or not... we may joke that politicians never tell the truth, but they actually very rarely do.

But if it's a close friend, someone you expected to reciprocate honesty, then that will change the S/M/R

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

What influence is there to be had from manipulating the truth? Perhaps not outright dishonesty...but spin?

[notcalledlizzie.livejournal.com]

Manipulation of the truth can be used to influence the public into seeing something in a more or less favorable light. Spin is often used to make something appear to be not as bad as it actually is.

[http://users.livejournal.com/sydney_bristow_/]

"Trust is not that easy..." Sydney says, "Sometimes its hard to be honest with someone if you can't trust them."

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

Why are trust and honesty so closely related, Sydney?

[http://users.livejournal.com/sydney_bristow_/]

"Because you can't be honest with someone you can't trust and therefore you can't build a relationship, and if they can't be honest with you, then you can't trust them."

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

But what if dishonesty is the basis of that relationship, and you both recognize that?

[absolutesnark]

"I think honesty is very important in all relationships. Without it, trust is lost. Once trust is lost, communication suffers."

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

What level of relationship, Piper? Do you mean any and all, or more...intimate relationships. Friends and family?

[absolutesnark]

"Honesty and trust are important in all levels of relationship."

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

How so, Piper. Give me an example.

[marsheadtilt.livejournal.com]

This class has managed to find all of Veronica's sore spots.

Taking a deep breath, she says, "Trust is an absolute in any relationship. Without trust you can't have love or friendship. If someone has a history of lying to you, it's impossible to fully love and accept them because you never know when they might hurt you again."

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

Yes! [She's a little excited by this] Tell me what happens when there isn't trust, Veronica.

[marsheadtilt.livejournal.com]

Veronica shakes her head slightly.

"Hmm, well, you could hypothetically accuse your boyfriend of murder. Or have your mother steal your college money. Or spend a year thinking you were raped," she suggests.

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

[She raises her eybrow.] The game ended yesterday, Veronica. Let's keep it hypothetical.

[allie-cameron.livejournal.com]

Allie enters class, carrying her still unnamed egg baby in a small box cushioned with cotton.

She's very uncomfortable with this topic of conversation, so she remains quiet and listens to the conversations going on around her.

[other-logan.livejournal.com]

Sitting down next to Allie, Logan takes out a piece of paper and scribbles a note for her. He smiles as he slides it onto her desk.

I'm sorry about yesterday. Little Sheena or Lindsey or Lola is a very cute baby girl.

[allie-cameron.livejournal.com]

Allie glances at Logan out of the corner of her eye. She's still incredibly embarrassed about her outburst, but he appears to be sincere.

I'm the one who owes you an apology. I shouldn't have gotten so upset.

She slides the note on his desk and tries not to think about what it means that he came up with one of the same names she did for the egg baby.

[other-logan.livejournal.com]

Logan reads the note and replies quickly.

I'm sure I deserved it. I mean, I'm incredibly handsome and intelligent, but I know I can be a challenge at times. :)

He winks as he hands slides it back to her.

[http://users.livejournal.com/___lily_evans_/]

Lily talks about honesty. She tries not to sound bitter.

[wannabelawyer.livejournal.com]

Honesty comes with respect and trust. If you don't respect or trust somebody, why bother telling them the truth?

It's hard to recognize honesty in people you don't know, but once you do know them there are things you can look for. If they're acting nervous, not looking you in the eye, tone of voice, stuff like that. Sometimes you can tell with people you don't really know, but it's a lot harder because you don't have past communication to compare with.