Speech Comm

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

[She looks sleepy, but she's jacked up on coffee and on a roll. Expect questions. Lots of questions.


Ok, we've played games, now let's bring it back...honesty and communication. Tell me what you understand about honesty and it's role as relates to influence, manipulation, friendship, trust and reciprocity? How do we recognize honesty? In what ways do we try to assure the honesty of those we communicate with? And what about body language? Is body language honest?

And now tell me how this fits with sender/message/receiver.

Comments

[anextimeagent.livejournal.com]

Jack shows up for class and participates in a cheerful and intelligent manner.

[Yup, just about out the door.]

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

[She presses him with questions, unrelenting, until he gets to where she wants him to be...whether he realizes it or not..]

((have fun!))

[notcalledlizzie.livejournal.com]

You're honest when you tell the truth to the best of your knowledge. It's important for trust, because being honest is seen as being fair. You expect someone to be honest to you if you're honest to them, although that's not always reciprocated.

[http://users.livejournal.com/sydney_bristow_/]

"Trust is not that easy..." Sydney says, "Sometimes its hard to be honest with someone if you can't trust them."

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

Why are trust and honesty so closely related, Sydney?

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

Tell me about the breakdown of reciprocity...when you realize someone is lying, what does that do to S/M/R?

[http://users.livejournal.com/sydney_bristow_/]

"Because you can't be honest with someone you can't trust and therefore you can't build a relationship, and if they can't be honest with you, then you can't trust them."

[notcalledlizzie.livejournal.com]

It depends if you expect the person to lie to you or not... we may joke that politicians never tell the truth, but they actually very rarely do.

But if it's a close friend, someone you expected to reciprocate honesty, then that will change the S/M/R

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

But what if dishonesty is the basis of that relationship, and you both recognize that?

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

What influence is there to be had from manipulating the truth? Perhaps not outright dishonesty...but spin?

[http://users.livejournal.com/sydney_bristow_/]

"You can't have a relationship based on dishonesty." Sydney says. "Living a lie is no way to live, it...east at you."

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

When we live a lie, how do we cope? What are some things we do to stay grounded in reality? In honesty with ourselves if no one else?

[http://users.livejournal.com/sydney_bristow_/]

"We keep hoping someday we'll believe the lie too."

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

And do we? Can we accept that message when we are both sender AND receiver? [She looks at Sydney softly. She can tell she's getting to one of Sydney's issues...and she steps lightly, ready to back off at any second.]

[absolutesnark]

"I think honesty is very important in all relationships. Without it, trust is lost. Once trust is lost, communication suffers."

[notcalledlizzie.livejournal.com]

Manipulation of the truth can be used to influence the public into seeing something in a more or less favorable light. Spin is often used to make something appear to be not as bad as it actually is.

[http://users.livejournal.com/sydney_bristow_/]

"Well we try, but I don't think we can truly accept it."

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

Why not? Have you ever lied to yourself, Sydney?

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

What level of relationship, Piper? Do you mean any and all, or more...intimate relationships. Friends and family?

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

[She smirks} That's the truth, right there. Ok, so why would we want a favorable light? Not just politics...all communication?

[notcalledlizzie.livejournal.com]

Because it makes communication easier.

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

And who benefits from communication made easy? ((Yay Foucault!))

[http://users.livejournal.com/sydney_bristow_/]

Sydney looks uncomfortable

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

Of, course you have, we all do. It makes life easier sometimes. Ok...moving on. Next? Or do you have anything else, Sydney?

[http://users.livejournal.com/sydney_bristow_/]

"No I'm done." Syd says