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Sexual Health and Education, Tuesday, 1st Period
"So," Kathy said, when everyone had assembled for class. Today, she was leaning against the desk, still trying to look teacherly in a pencil skirt and button-up blouse. "We're talking about the most important aspect of sex - and, honestly, of human interaction: consent. Consent, while it most frequently talked about in regards to sex, is applicable to your every day life. At it's most basic, consent is permission and when it comes to people, it's the permission to involve you in whatever activities are happening. Borrowing clothes, drinking alcohol, giving hugs, and, yes, having sex. Do do something with someone without their consent is a violation - both of themselves and sometimes the law. Today we're going to talk about different kinds of consent and, most particularly, the kinds of consent based around sex."
"So you mighta heard the phrase 'no means no'," Dante said. He was seated this time! ... Sprawling in the chair behind the desk in his red coat and a tank top, but whatever. Sitting! "Well, with sex, it's more like 'yes means yes', if you get what I mean."
Oh, right. Teacher. He should probably explain.
"It's not good enough to just have somebody who's willing to go along with whatever you want," he said. "You gotta check in, make sure they're actually cool. Sometimes people feel pressured to do stuff they don't really want to do."
"When it comes to sex, what all involved parties are looking for is informed and enthusiastic consent," Kathy said, perching on the edge of the desk. "The kind of consent that implies excitement and eagerness - the people involves aren't just going along with what is happening, they're enthusiastically onboard with going ahead. And informed consent means that everyone knows what's going on. Any relevant STIs have been discussed, a general idea has been expressed - or they have consented to being surprised - they know who and what is going to be involved. Basically, you know what's happening, you know any risks involved, and you're still excited to get down. Cool, that's informed, enthusiastic consent."
Ooof. And now the hard stuff.
"But there are a lot of scenarios where consent hasn't or can't be given," she continued. "When you're drunk or high, for example. Or unconscious. Or haven't been fully and properly informed."
"But that can and does happen a fucking lot," Dante said, wincing. "So watch out for that. And don't, like, do that to anybody. If they seem too drunk or out of it to think about what they want, they're too drunk and out of it to do you."
"Also, if someone isn't as excited as you about what is happening - especially if they're lying still, or not communicating, or seem checked out...if you've had to try to guilt or manipulate or convince--that's coercion, not consent. So don't. And if someone is trying that with you? Get out. It can be really hard to say no, especially when you know someone else really wants something you can provide. But you're not here for them, and you have a right to not do things that hurt you, upset you, or make you feel uncomfortable."
Kathy was getting really emphatic there.
He glanced at Kathy. "So we got a few questions for you guys to discuss with each other today."
Ugh, now he felt teacherly.
Kathy took a second to breathe, and went back to casually leaning. "Our questions for class discussion today:
1) What do you think about consent being defined as the presence of a yes?
2) Imagine you and another person start kissing. You are attracted to this person, and you think you’re getting non-verbal signals that both of you want to 'do more' than kiss. As a group, generate 3 examples of something you could say to your partner to determine what to do next. Again, give examples of things you could say before going any further.
3) Do you think sexual partners talking about what they are interested in experiencing together will lead to a better sexual experience for them? Why or why not?"
All right kids. Have at!
"So you mighta heard the phrase 'no means no'," Dante said. He was seated this time! ... Sprawling in the chair behind the desk in his red coat and a tank top, but whatever. Sitting! "Well, with sex, it's more like 'yes means yes', if you get what I mean."
Oh, right. Teacher. He should probably explain.
"It's not good enough to just have somebody who's willing to go along with whatever you want," he said. "You gotta check in, make sure they're actually cool. Sometimes people feel pressured to do stuff they don't really want to do."
"When it comes to sex, what all involved parties are looking for is informed and enthusiastic consent," Kathy said, perching on the edge of the desk. "The kind of consent that implies excitement and eagerness - the people involves aren't just going along with what is happening, they're enthusiastically onboard with going ahead. And informed consent means that everyone knows what's going on. Any relevant STIs have been discussed, a general idea has been expressed - or they have consented to being surprised - they know who and what is going to be involved. Basically, you know what's happening, you know any risks involved, and you're still excited to get down. Cool, that's informed, enthusiastic consent."
Ooof. And now the hard stuff.
"But there are a lot of scenarios where consent hasn't or can't be given," she continued. "When you're drunk or high, for example. Or unconscious. Or haven't been fully and properly informed."
"But that can and does happen a fucking lot," Dante said, wincing. "So watch out for that. And don't, like, do that to anybody. If they seem too drunk or out of it to think about what they want, they're too drunk and out of it to do you."
"Also, if someone isn't as excited as you about what is happening - especially if they're lying still, or not communicating, or seem checked out...if you've had to try to guilt or manipulate or convince--that's coercion, not consent. So don't. And if someone is trying that with you? Get out. It can be really hard to say no, especially when you know someone else really wants something you can provide. But you're not here for them, and you have a right to not do things that hurt you, upset you, or make you feel uncomfortable."
Kathy was getting really emphatic there.
He glanced at Kathy. "So we got a few questions for you guys to discuss with each other today."
Ugh, now he felt teacherly.
Kathy took a second to breathe, and went back to casually leaning. "Our questions for class discussion today:
1) What do you think about consent being defined as the presence of a yes?
2) Imagine you and another person start kissing. You are attracted to this person, and you think you’re getting non-verbal signals that both of you want to 'do more' than kiss. As a group, generate 3 examples of something you could say to your partner to determine what to do next. Again, give examples of things you could say before going any further.
3) Do you think sexual partners talking about what they are interested in experiencing together will lead to a better sexual experience for them? Why or why not?"
All right kids. Have at!
Special Assignment - Eleanor
"Last week, Eleanor volunteered to do some extra research," Kathy said, looking at the girl in question
if she was here. "Looking at pornography and discussing how it differs from real sex. Thank you again for volunteering, Eleanor. Are you ready?"Re: Special Assignment - Eleanor
Fuuuuuuuuuck.
Eleanor stood up in front of the class and let out a loud cough and swallowed hard before speaking.
"So. First of all? I don't care what anyone says, clothing choices are never going to be like that. Oh sure, Victoria's Secret makes a shirt ton of money for the illusion but chances are when the action kicks off it's not going to be some stupid mini dress that I have to pull down a million times a night. It's going to be a ratty sweatshirt and sweatpants. And there ain't going to be a motherforking strip tease because once it's on, it's on. It's going to be a mad scramble and cooperative movement to get everything off and out of the way so we can get to business. Furthermore if you think anyone has planned this act so far in advance that there's some kind of Victoria's Secret outfit under those sweatpants you are sadly mistaken. It's going to be a worn set of granny panties and a sports bra that has seen better days and probably has some old rust stains on it. So on to the action itself. First of all? The lighting in any real life scenario is not going to be even remotely good and chances are I'm getting those lights off because I haven't spent an hour getting body make up applied to hide scars and my cellulite. Also if you think any girl just strips and then gets down to the forking, you are definitely delusional. I don't know about you all but I need a warmup. And I'm not talking about stretching and forking jumping jacks. And I'm not talking about getting him ready because if it is a him he should need no help in that forking department. Now, if we're getting into pregaming? All that shirt I've seen just looks painful or just really done badly. Then again, I'm never at that camera angle so maybe it is like that but from a girl with experience? I'm saying a hell no to most of that shirt. And all that moaning and screaming? Way overdone. Anyway, if I go any further, you all are going to know a hell of a lot more about me than my own mother. Suffice to say? I'll give all of you nerds an analogy most of you can understand. Porn to real sex? Is like the
meta forLord of the Rings to Monty Python and the Holy Grail. Completely different in execution, but satisfying in their own separate way."Re: Special Assignment - Eleanor
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And then relented, looking at Eleanor. "Seriously, though," she said, much warmer. "You really hit the nail on the--" Wait. Bad phrasing. "Porn is purely entertainment. Sex isn't like that in real life. It's highly unrealistic. It's like watching Amigos and expecting to be able to afford those apartments in NYC. Fun to watch--"
Not that Kathy thought Amigos was particularly all that fun.
"--but if you expect sex to be anything like porn, you're going to be vastly disappointed with ridiculous expectations that aren't going to be met."
Unless you're banging a NephilimRe: Special Assignment - Eleanor
braggedsaid bragged.Re: Special Assignment - Eleanor
Held up his hand for a high five. Sigh. Of course.
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Yes, Kathy. You were the buzzkill.
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Please, Eleanor. Dante had been calling her a fun-ruiner for years.
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She did. However the details are fuzzy.
"I do remember watching a lot of porn."
But probably not for class.
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