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fandomhigh2021-03-02 10:15 am
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Sexual Health and Education, Tuesday
"Hey, class!" That was a positively jaunty Dante leaning against the desk, there. Not that that was much different from usual... "So today we're kickin' off a few weeks of classes on sexual identity and shit. You know, who you're into, how you're into them, what you can do about that..." A pause. "Well, maybe not getting too graphic on that last one."
Kathy would glare at him.
They were underage, Dante! Among many, many other reasons! Still a no!
Look, Dante was having some trouble adjusting to being the adult in the room, okay?
"And sometimes, you find out that you're not into anyone or don't want to do anything with them," Kathy said, picking up the thread of the lecture. "Not everyone experiences sexual or romantic attraction: some folks experience both, some one or the other, some neither. The umbrella term for people who don't experience that kind of attraction is 'asexuality,' though asexuality - like its opposite, allosexuality - is a whole spectrum, encompassing many different types of attraction."
"Some people on the asexuality spectrum like to use something they call the split attraction model," Dante said. "The basic idea is that you can, like, be attracted to people in a whole bunch of ways, and most of them aren't really about sex at all. Like, you can be romantically attracted to someone, wanna date them and be with them, and still not wanna have sex with them. Or, hell, you can just be attracted to how pretty they are, but not want to date them or have sex with them. Or you might wanna have sex with people but you don't wanna deal with all that romance crap."
"Being ace is not the same as being celibate," Kathy explained, handing out another sheet of definitions. "Asexuality is a sexual orientation, whereas celibacy is about behaviors. Asexuals can and do have sex, allosexuals can be celibate for any number of reasons. Asexuality isn't a series of behaviors, it's about desire--or lack thereof."
"And it's got a lot of grey spaces," Dante added. "Not everybody uses the model, or people feel like they're, like, in between shit? Maybe one moment you think you're gonna be happy just fu-- screwing people for the rest of the life, the next you're suddenly domestic and shit with two life partners, who the fuck knows?"
He shrugged.
"Anyway, we're gonna be asking you to think about this shit over the next few weeks," he said. "You don't have to self-identify or shit if you don't want to." He glanced at Kathy. "Like, today, maybe think about... what does sex mean to you? And romance? You ever look at someone and be like, 'damn they're pretty, but fuck no, I don't want to hit that'?"
Kathy was giving Dante a soft smile for that, reaching to lace her fingers with his for a moment. "Look at some of the different types of attractions, see if you recognize any of them, or if you have some people in one category who don't show up in another. Basically, just take this time to really consider sex, romance, and intimacy."
"Talk to each other about it, or talk to us," Dante concluded, "Or don't talk at all. This is, like, a free space."
Kathy would glare at him.
They were underage, Dante! Among many, many other reasons! Still a no!
Look, Dante was having some trouble adjusting to being the adult in the room, okay?
"And sometimes, you find out that you're not into anyone or don't want to do anything with them," Kathy said, picking up the thread of the lecture. "Not everyone experiences sexual or romantic attraction: some folks experience both, some one or the other, some neither. The umbrella term for people who don't experience that kind of attraction is 'asexuality,' though asexuality - like its opposite, allosexuality - is a whole spectrum, encompassing many different types of attraction."
"Some people on the asexuality spectrum like to use something they call the split attraction model," Dante said. "The basic idea is that you can, like, be attracted to people in a whole bunch of ways, and most of them aren't really about sex at all. Like, you can be romantically attracted to someone, wanna date them and be with them, and still not wanna have sex with them. Or, hell, you can just be attracted to how pretty they are, but not want to date them or have sex with them. Or you might wanna have sex with people but you don't wanna deal with all that romance crap."
"Being ace is not the same as being celibate," Kathy explained, handing out another sheet of definitions. "Asexuality is a sexual orientation, whereas celibacy is about behaviors. Asexuals can and do have sex, allosexuals can be celibate for any number of reasons. Asexuality isn't a series of behaviors, it's about desire--or lack thereof."
"And it's got a lot of grey spaces," Dante added. "Not everybody uses the model, or people feel like they're, like, in between shit? Maybe one moment you think you're gonna be happy just fu-- screwing people for the rest of the life, the next you're suddenly domestic and shit with two life partners, who the fuck knows?"
He shrugged.
"Anyway, we're gonna be asking you to think about this shit over the next few weeks," he said. "You don't have to self-identify or shit if you don't want to." He glanced at Kathy. "Like, today, maybe think about... what does sex mean to you? And romance? You ever look at someone and be like, 'damn they're pretty, but fuck no, I don't want to hit that'?"
Kathy was giving Dante a soft smile for that, reaching to lace her fingers with his for a moment. "Look at some of the different types of attractions, see if you recognize any of them, or if you have some people in one category who don't show up in another. Basically, just take this time to really consider sex, romance, and intimacy."
"Talk to each other about it, or talk to us," Dante concluded, "Or don't talk at all. This is, like, a free space."
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