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fandomhigh2020-02-14 03:45 pm
1000yearstoolate) wrote in fandomhigh2020-02-14 03:45 pm
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How To Be Civilized, Friday, Period 3
"So," Seivarden said. "I see that you survived that party you had last night. Just to be clear, even without aphrodisiacs in the air it's not civilized to have a party with kissing games without wearing gloves."
She gave Tisarwat a look.
"But today we're going to talk about something else, although obviously I do expect you to wear acceptable gloves as usual, of course."
Here she gave Mae a look.
"Now, politeness is usually a good thing, but sometimes you need to make sure someone understands you disapprove of them. This should of course be done in a civilized way. So today's exercise will be to first think of a situation where you would need to express your disapproval, and then come up with an insult, in words or actions, that's subtle enough to be proper, while clear enough not to be mistaken for a compliment."
"A simple example would be when your poor cousins yet again invite themselves for tea. You could serve them using an inferior tea set, while talking of the expensive one someone just gave you. No one is going to miss the point, of course."
"So please, go ahead."
Wait for OCD. OCD is up.]
She gave Tisarwat a look.
"But today we're going to talk about something else, although obviously I do expect you to wear acceptable gloves as usual, of course."
Here she gave Mae a look.
"Now, politeness is usually a good thing, but sometimes you need to make sure someone understands you disapprove of them. This should of course be done in a civilized way. So today's exercise will be to first think of a situation where you would need to express your disapproval, and then come up with an insult, in words or actions, that's subtle enough to be proper, while clear enough not to be mistaken for a compliment."
"A simple example would be when your poor cousins yet again invite themselves for tea. You could serve them using an inferior tea set, while talking of the expensive one someone just gave you. No one is going to miss the point, of course."
"So please, go ahead."
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And Tisarwat might have been tempted to point out that a week like this was the perfect time for a party like that, if it weren't for the fact that she hadn't actually thought there was anything different about the week, besides her somehow managing to find her social stride again.
"It was an incredible success, you know," she said.
She could have acted like she was ashamed or sorry or something like that. She could be an excellent actress when she wanted to be. But she also didn't feel like she needed to be, in this case.
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Which just reminded Tisarwat to absolutely not mention the fact that Mae was actually one of the few people to actually wear gloves last night. Proper ones, too, unlike Prompto's...
"It's not like it even means anything to anyone here," she pointed out. "And for those who did understand, it just made things...." She made a small gesture "...more interesting."
Well, for her, anyway. It made things more interesting for her. There was a reason why she was going to have a hard time looking Nina in the eye today.
"Think of it like annexation," she added. "Sometimes, making small allowances for things in the beginning makes it easier for new planets to become civilized in the long run."
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