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Sexual Safety [Friday]
"Good morning!" Today, when Irene greeted the class, it was with an assortment of BDSM goodies on the table at the front of the room -- several riding crops, a whip, a pair of fuzzy handcuffs, a pair of distinctly non-fuzzy handcuffs, a cat o'nine tails....the list went on modily. "So, some of you will always prefer the more vanilla approach to things, and I'm here to tell you that that's fine, and that if you're intimidated by any of...this," she gestured to the table, "it's perfectly natural."
"But." She clapped her hands together briskly, once. "It's also natural to want to experiment, and if you and your partner are feeling adventurous, bringing a little BDSM to your bedroom can be terribly, terribly fun. BDSM, for those of you who don't know, is an acronym that stands for 'Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism.' What that all means is that sometimes, the contrast of a little bit of pain with your pleasure can be enormously enjoyable." She quirked a smile at them. "I haven't shared this with a class before, but this -- all of this -- used to be a bit of a speciality of mine, professionally, so it's fairly near and dear to my heart. And that's why, as an expert professional, I want to make sure that you all know what you're doing before you start venturing into the waters of playing with pain."
"Before you start incorporating any gear like this, I'd say there needs to be conversations outside of bed, when you're both thinking clearly," Irene started seriously. "Both parties need to be on board with what's happening, what's expected of either of them, and how they want this to go. And then, before you incorporate any gear like this, I'd really recommend starting with just your hand." She held up a hand, waving her fingers delicately before miming a quick, hard, open-palmed slap. "There are areas that will absorb pain better than others -- I'm sure you're all perfectly aware that a blow to one's behind doesn't hurt nearly as much as a blow to the face, for instance, because of the cushion of fat. I'd avoid erogenous zones unless you two talk it out and that's thoroughly discussed -- you might think you're ready for nipple clamps, but it's an unpleasant surprise to discover you're not, is the thing."
She picked up her riding crop and flicked it out once, gently. "Above all, always start out light. You can always ramp it up, but it's very hard to decelerate from a very forceful starting point, especially if you've already inflicted a fair amount of pain. And finally, you two need to decide on a safe word ahead of time -- a cue to stop, because so often pleas of stopping or begging for mercy are actually meant to herald more, and add to the excitement. I recommend a word you'd never otherwise say in a sexual situation -- 'marshmallow,' or 'porcupine,' or even just 'magenta.' I wouldn't use something that means something to either of you, especially -- if you use the name of your puppy, for instance, you'll probably always look at the poor thing differently afterwards."
She gestured to the table, smiling. "Browse. Play. Ask questions. If you need a demonstration, I can help with form." She rolled her eyes a little, adding, "Not like that, you know."
"But." She clapped her hands together briskly, once. "It's also natural to want to experiment, and if you and your partner are feeling adventurous, bringing a little BDSM to your bedroom can be terribly, terribly fun. BDSM, for those of you who don't know, is an acronym that stands for 'Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism.' What that all means is that sometimes, the contrast of a little bit of pain with your pleasure can be enormously enjoyable." She quirked a smile at them. "I haven't shared this with a class before, but this -- all of this -- used to be a bit of a speciality of mine, professionally, so it's fairly near and dear to my heart. And that's why, as an expert professional, I want to make sure that you all know what you're doing before you start venturing into the waters of playing with pain."
"Before you start incorporating any gear like this, I'd say there needs to be conversations outside of bed, when you're both thinking clearly," Irene started seriously. "Both parties need to be on board with what's happening, what's expected of either of them, and how they want this to go. And then, before you incorporate any gear like this, I'd really recommend starting with just your hand." She held up a hand, waving her fingers delicately before miming a quick, hard, open-palmed slap. "There are areas that will absorb pain better than others -- I'm sure you're all perfectly aware that a blow to one's behind doesn't hurt nearly as much as a blow to the face, for instance, because of the cushion of fat. I'd avoid erogenous zones unless you two talk it out and that's thoroughly discussed -- you might think you're ready for nipple clamps, but it's an unpleasant surprise to discover you're not, is the thing."
She picked up her riding crop and flicked it out once, gently. "Above all, always start out light. You can always ramp it up, but it's very hard to decelerate from a very forceful starting point, especially if you've already inflicted a fair amount of pain. And finally, you two need to decide on a safe word ahead of time -- a cue to stop, because so often pleas of stopping or begging for mercy are actually meant to herald more, and add to the excitement. I recommend a word you'd never otherwise say in a sexual situation -- 'marshmallow,' or 'porcupine,' or even just 'magenta.' I wouldn't use something that means something to either of you, especially -- if you use the name of your puppy, for instance, you'll probably always look at the poor thing differently afterwards."
She gestured to the table, smiling. "Browse. Play. Ask questions. If you need a demonstration, I can help with form." She rolled her eyes a little, adding, "Not like that, you know."
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She picked up a pair of fuzzy handcuffs, laughing at the color and pattern, before picking up the NOT-fuzzy ones. "So, is the point of these to pick your way out before, during, or after?"
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