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Sex, Dating and Self-Confidence [Tuesday, Period 2]
Today Irene was sitting on the edge of her desk, and shockingly enough, not holding the question box.
"Good morning," she said with a slight smile. "We don't have anything in the box this week -- I know, I was surprised as well -- so let's get right to work. We've discussed asking each other out, how to court one another via means of affection, and today, we're going to talk about when all of that goes to hell."
"Let's say the object of your affections is gracious enough to agree to a night out with you," Irene suggested, folding her hands in her lap. "But the night doesn't go as planned, for whatever reason. We all, generally, will have at least one terrible date story to share, at least by the time you're my age." She leaned forward a little, conspiratorially, and wrinkled her nose. "I once went out with someone who wouldn't let me get a word in edgewise, and then when I mentioned it, she brought out a pad of paper, and started writing down notes on what I was saying, as well as things she wanted to mention when I was done talking. That was rather memorable."
She'd always kind of wondered what had become of the notes.
"But let's say that it's not your beloved's fault, or yours, that the date goes poorly. Let's say there's an ice storm. Or someone drops a plate of spaghetti all over you. Or your credit cards are declined. How would you recover? What would your expectation be of your date, in terms of their recovery? Is it reasonable that if a disaster should befall you on your date -- let's say the absolute worst thing happens, and your date breaks a leg, or you end up in a car accident, or you get lost -- there shouldn't be a second date? Let's talk about that -- and by all means, please feel free to share any terrible date stories you might have as well."
"Good morning," she said with a slight smile. "We don't have anything in the box this week -- I know, I was surprised as well -- so let's get right to work. We've discussed asking each other out, how to court one another via means of affection, and today, we're going to talk about when all of that goes to hell."
"Let's say the object of your affections is gracious enough to agree to a night out with you," Irene suggested, folding her hands in her lap. "But the night doesn't go as planned, for whatever reason. We all, generally, will have at least one terrible date story to share, at least by the time you're my age." She leaned forward a little, conspiratorially, and wrinkled her nose. "I once went out with someone who wouldn't let me get a word in edgewise, and then when I mentioned it, she brought out a pad of paper, and started writing down notes on what I was saying, as well as things she wanted to mention when I was done talking. That was rather memorable."
She'd always kind of wondered what had become of the notes.
"But let's say that it's not your beloved's fault, or yours, that the date goes poorly. Let's say there's an ice storm. Or someone drops a plate of spaghetti all over you. Or your credit cards are declined. How would you recover? What would your expectation be of your date, in terms of their recovery? Is it reasonable that if a disaster should befall you on your date -- let's say the absolute worst thing happens, and your date breaks a leg, or you end up in a car accident, or you get lost -- there shouldn't be a second date? Let's talk about that -- and by all means, please feel free to share any terrible date stories you might have as well."
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Listen to the lecture [11/4]
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She did keep looking his way
if he was thereand biting the inside of her cheek to keep from laughing, though.Re: Listen to the lecture [11/4]
Meanwhile he was just going to scrunch down here and hope he wouldn't get called on.
Discussion: bad dates! [11/4]
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There might have been awkward conversation at some ball or other at home, with young ladies who, while wanting to give the impression of being highly accomplished, had neither wit nor learning to speak of. Those where not dates, however.
"I guess I have been lucky," he said.
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"If things go terribly but it isn't anyone's fault, exactly, another date is probably a good idea," Kathy said. "If someone is being rude, aggressive, disrespectful, or just off-putting, then there's no reason to have a second date. But if you like the person and it's just circumstances that are terrible, then I don't see anything wrong with giving it another go. I know two people who had what could be considered a disastrous first date. It kept getting interrupted for, umm, lectures."
About not turning people into dinosaurs, BARRY.
"But they agreed to try again and now they're one of the most awesome couples I know. So, I guess, so long as whatever those extenuating circumstances are, if they're not bad enough to change your opinion of someone, it's worth a second shot. But if you're not willing to overlook the circumstances to try again, you probably didn't like them well enough to go on a second date anyway."
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While at the same time thinking, "Aww." They were an awesome couple!
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"You wanna rephrase that?"
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"What? I said I learned my fucking lesson."
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Some things didn't need caveats, Barry!
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"Don't split hairs with me Kathy."
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"Pretty sure I'm supposed to be drawing a paycheck to make sure it stays hair-splitting."
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She was trying very hard to keep a straight face.
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And, well, that was it, wasn't it?
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"It doesn't end there. So this girl, her name is Crystal, and she's the princess of a secret society of superhumans that's been hidden from humanity for, like, thousands of years. And her guards come back and zap her back home where we can't follow, except they left her dog. We hitch a ride with the dog because, you know, true love. And we end up in a fight with a hundred thousand superpeople, we're barely keeping things together, and then out of nowhere the royal family comes along, tells us we poisoned the air with humanity, and they evacuate their entire society to somewhere new."
"So yeah, that date sucked. Never saw Crystal again."
Never mind that the date didn't start with her. It was still a bad date.
Talk to Irene [11/4]
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Anyway, this week is already kicking my butt and it's only Tuesday, so apologies if I don't get to the discussion -- please make the threads messy and talk to each other yay!