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[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

Today she is professional, but there is a real air of annoyance. It won't take much to really make her mad, so watch it.

301--Family Unit Continues

OK, gang, here's the deal. Today we're talking about family again, both blood and created. I want to talk about both functional and dysfunctional.

[She purses her lips together and leans forward on her lectern]

How do we communicate our feelings? Not love, not nurture, not caring...How do we as people access and communicate the real feelings of family? Possesivness? Defense? A huge part of family is feelings of ownership and belonging. How do we communicate this, and what happens when it's interrupted?

Go. Talk to me.

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D'anna enters and takes a seat far from Jack. She figures that CJ has her reasons for allowing him in class, but D isn't taking any chances. Last week was traumatizing all over the map.

"We communicate though action - touching, protecting, defending, looking out for each other; sharing tasks, resources, secrets." D'anna frowned a little and bit her lip before continuing, "Or by withholding those things. By withholding any of these... we communicate either displeasure with a 'family' or indicate that someone is not, or is no longer, a member of the family group."

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[ooc: I wrote out D's comment before reading the other threads. If you'd like me to move it to another spot, just say so.]

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"I agree. It's cliche, but actions do speak louder than words. And sometimes people can subconsciously start to react physically to situations before they mentally realize they even have an issue with someone."

[dbiers.livejournal.com]

"Good point," D'anna nods. "A person's body-language often betrays his or her state of mind. The better you know that person, the more a movement, expression, or action reveals."

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

Do you think that? Or do you find with intimacy comes a certain amount of inattention...you should read the body, but you don't?

[dbiers.livejournal.com]

Her brow wrinkled in concentration. "Say someone you were close with was known as a non-smoker and you happened upon him or her having a cig. To a random stranger, that person is just another smoker taking a break to indulge in a bad habit, but to you, it's a clear sign of distress or trouble." She bites her bottom lip another moment, "I'm not sure about the inattention, Miss. I guess familiarity could breed a certain amount of... 'tolerance' to another's physical indicators?"

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

Don't say it like a question, D'anna. You're exactly right. Familiarity breeds tolerance, which can become inattention. This is often manifested in divorce. Do you want to add anything else?

[dbiers.livejournal.com]

"Yes, Miss, I'll try to remember that." Brow still wrinkled wow she's gonna need botox someday, D'anna cocked her head to the side. "So, inattention is the first sign that there's been a breakdown in communication, thus signaling dysfunction in the unit as a whole?" She asked, sincerely curious.

[prof-cregg.livejournal.com]

Inattention and taking others for granted is...well, it's only my opinion, but yes. Those are big contributers to dysfunction. They devalue the person and the relationship...often to the breaking point.

[dbiers.livejournal.com]

D'anna nods thoughtfully, jots something down in her notebook, then gives CJ a small smile. "Thank you, Miss."