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Sex, Dating and Self-Confidence [Tuesday, Period 2]

"Good morning," Irene called cheerfully as the students filed in today. "First order of business: I have two things to answer from the question box."

With the first slip of paper, Irene only just pulled it a little out of the box, cleared her throat and read aloud, "Oh, question box. I enjoy being inside you so much. Ever since I entered your slit, I've never known such happiness. I hope you enjoy being filled by me. I... wait, no... Don't pull me out! I don't want to leave! QUESTION BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO--"

And while Irene did give it her all, there (she was a touch theatrical sometimes), she looked up from the paper there, and pulled it the rest of the way out of the box before setting it aside.

"That's not really a question, is it?" she asked, smiling slightly. "But points for creativity to whoever came up with that one."

She had her guesses.

"Next one: So the last time I had sex I yelled out my own name." Irene's brows lifted slightly, and she glanced out at the class before moving on. "First: How weird is that? Second: How do you come back for that? Any thing I can say or do to appease the old ball and chain?"

Irene sighed, setting the slip of paper aside, and moving the box back to its home by the condom fishbowl. "I think," she said carefully, "that it's not weird, precisely -- I'm not here to judge -- but that you might want to be...conscious of that in the future. I haven't ever heard of anyone doing that before, but I can see how it'd happen if one were especially...distracted? As far as appeasing the...ball and chain." She frowned a little. "Not calling them that might be a fabulous start, I'd think. And then from there -- well, that's our class topic today."

Irene's frown transformed into a slight smile, and she continued talking. "What are the ways we can show someone that we appreciate them, or we're attracted to them? Last week we talked about letting someone know we like them, and I do still endorse just coming out and telling them. But let's say you're not ready for that. Or...let's say you already have bagged that special someone -- how do you continue to let them know you like them? And what's appropriate? What do our biases lead us to believe? Gentlemen, do you feel obligated to pay on dates? Ladies, do you expect flowers? What about those of us in same-sex relationships? If we stay true to gender norms, how do those same biases lead to confusion? Is it time to just throw those ideas out? But what about those of us who do like expressions of affection, regardless of gender? What about blokes who like pretty things? Is that allowed, or would you be weirded out if your boyfriend wanted flowers? And so on."

She held up a finger, adding, "The second thing I want you to consider is where one should set boundaries in a relationship? Is anyone here comfortable with someone going through their browser history? What about their text messages?" Irene's eyes narrowed a bit, since that was a topic...well, near and dear to her heart, a bit. "Where does the line fall between trust, and what we're entitled to know about our significant others' lives outside of us? I'd like you all to discuss, and I'll interject as it seems appropriate -- you all have wonderful ideas of your own, and I want to see where the topics take you."

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Being appreciative, or appreciated!

And/or marvel at the question box/slip of paper smut.

Do gender biases/norms inform how we treat our significant others? Should they? What are some good ways to show someone you appreciate them? And where do we draw the line between "concerned boyfriend/girlfriend" and "wow stalky and intrusive much?"

Who is definitely here, and not even nose-deep in her phone, today.

TWO THINGS:

1. Question box/slip of paper smut is actually an old one that got skipped because I had so many to get through last week. The appropriate apologies have been made but I'M REALLY SORRY TO THE REST OF YOU FOR DEPRIVING YOU OF THAT FOR WEEKS.

2. I was going to have everyone take a Love Languages test, but I couldn't find one that loaded quickly and didn't require putting in your email first. C'est la vie.

Barry Ween

Barry laughed heartily on the first question. The second question he was just trying to look as innocent as possible.

"I don't know," Barry said with a shrug. "It's all subjective really depending on the person or their culture. I mean I don't really give a shit if anyone looks at my browser history but someone else might get all bent of shape because they looked up shit on pintrest. And how I show someone I appreciate them is based on what they would like. Me giving someone a box of shitty movies isn't probably going to be a good gift. Someone giving me a box of shitty movies would be a good gift because I find that shit amusing."

1. Do you love languages?

2. Do you love tests?

3. Do you love love?

4. Are you just answering these questions to make the test love you?

5. Did you know that this test is inanimate?

6. Did you know this test loves you anyway?

7. Will you marry this test?

8. Wait, is that languages yelling?

9. Languages wants you back. Do you want it back?

10. Threesome?

Give yourself 0 points for each "no" answer, 2 points for each "yes" answer, 1 point for each answer that was neither "yes" nor "no," give me your email address and credit card number, and while you're doing the math, ignore me as I fly to Mexico!

Alana

"Gender norms are a really cultural thing?" Alana offered. "It seems like girls here are expected to be more ... I guess, more passive than we are at home. So I'm not good at answering that part of the question. But, um, as far as appreciation" -- she smirked -- "I'm big on physical gestures. Not just sex, but touching their arms, rubbing their backs, things like that."

Ichabod Crane

Raven Darkholme

"That's a good point," Raven said. "Showing someone you appreciate them should probably be pretty tailored to that person. What if a girl's allergic to flowers? And a present or action you know that specific person would like shows you've been paying attention. Which adds a whole extra bit of 'I like you' to it."

Gwen Stacy

Was it wrong to give the paper smut a bit of a slow clap? Oops it was happening.

There is something wrong with your brain but it's hilarious so it's okay.

I just want you to personify objects and make me wonder about their love lives all day, now.

"Are women more aggressive when it comes to sex and dating where you're from?" Irene asked, raising her brows. "Oh, I love that. We're only just sort of catching up to that idea, here."

No wonder Alana seemed to have such a good attitude about these things.

"It's a personality thing at home," Alana explained. "Some girls are more aggressive, some guys are more aggressive. It's not seen as being tied to gender roles, I guess? I tend to be a little aggressive but nothing crazy."

"That is beautifully evolved," Irene said with a slightly envious sigh. "Can I come home with you? But I do apologize for not clarifying that the cultural aspect might influence things -- I tend to think with a Western Earth brain, since that's how I grew up, and we're still coming around to the idea that women can ask men out, even, in certain parts of the world."

Johnny Storm

Whoever wrote that smut was brilliant. BRILLIANT. Johnny thought that person probably deserved make outs for that effort.

FYI, pencils are jealous of computers because they just want to be held. Those slutty computers, though, they want you to pound away at their keyboard and not even think twice about it.

"I think that boundaries are important with text messages and email and browser history or whatever," Johnny said. "I mean, if somebody hacks your phone to check out what you have on there, that's creepy and illegal, right? Especially if they tell you that they're doing it just concerned for you. I'd get a lawyer on the phone to get a restraining order right away. The only difference between that and just picking up my phone when I'm not looking is effort."

"And, you know, I'm a pretty open guy. But that doesn't mean you get to go through my stuff."

Cecil Gershwin Palmer

"Well, I wouldn't want someone checking my phone or anything in case I was trying to do something to surprise them," Cecil said. "But ♥Carlos♥ says I have a tendency to overshare a bit."

Just a bit.

Kaylin Neya

Joker Moreau

Eleanor Lamb wtf

Edited 2014-10-29 03:57 (UTC)

"Why would someone read someone else's text messages?" Eleanor asked. "And why would someone want to hide their text messages from their significant other, in the first place?"

Eleanor had had a smartphone for all of a month, and had yet to send any text messages, so she was still trying to catch up to what they were talking about, exactly.

"Ahhhh, gender norms," Joker commented. "Everyone's got their own idea of what they are, how far they should be followed, and what should be rejected. One girl slaps anyone who brings her flowers; another expects you to pay if you want to sit together in the school cafeteria. And don't even get me started on holding the door open. ...No, do. Seriously. Blind date could not get it through her head that some things just weren't gonna happen."

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