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201--Invitations
Let's hear em, gang. You wrote letters to a parent to invite them to parents' weekend and tell them this school is peachy-keen. I know some of you did them for both your parents. I'm glad you had some fun with the idea of different audience. Ok, get up here. Impress me.
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301--Family Unit--SEX

All right gang. I have faith this isn't going to turn into a giggle fest, I expect a certain level of maturity. I want to talk about choosing family, especially those you find worthy of a particular lavel of intimacy, such as sharing your self. How do you communicate that you want to go to bed with them? How does a level of personal intimacy related to non-sexual activity determine the reactions of an intimate sexual encounter?

Finally, what are the repercussions of sexual intimacy and poor communication, especially for you at this age. Are you ready for the creation of a family of your own? [Specifically does NOT look at Sydney as she asks the questions]

Ok, gang...hit me.

((interaction will be really sporadic, sorry. Probably not so much with the q&a today, but feel free to go wild. And talk to each other, by all means!))

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[CJ will find pale blue fuzzy dice (http://www.norasake.com/catalog/other-034a2.jpg) in her staff mailbox this morning, with a note.]

Saw these and thought they would suit. xx me

Jack slinks in looking like he's been on a bender. Because he has. Rastifarian gin is wicked stuff. However, he got a chance to talk to, pet and sing to Julian (http://www.livejournal.com/users/time_agent/4545.html), both in and out of kitty-shape, so on the whole he's happy.

Chip, talk to me...sex? Intimacy?

As a lot of people in the class have said, it's possible to have sex without intimacy. It's possible to have intimacy without sex. But the two of them together... I guess that would be a lot... scarier.

Why do you say that, Chip? Why scarier?

You make yourself vulnerable with sex -- although it's worth it. You make yourself vulnerable with intimacy. the two of those added together have to add up to *really* vulnerable. Therefore, scary.

[She smiles slyly] Tell me about vulnerabilty, Chip. Vulnerability and intimacy...and trust.

*head buried in hands* When I figure it out, you'll be the first to know. Okay, maybe the second.

[Realizing this has gone past the lesson for the day for him, she walks over and rubs her hand on his shoulder and down his arm, lightly squeezing it. Softly, ]

I'd love to be second, Chip. Come to me if you need to talk.

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D'anna nurses a coffee while listening to her classmates and waiting for her turn. The invitation she presents is neither stellar or horrible, just average. It's clearly one of those things that will be tucked away and forgot about as soon as possible.

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Great gods is D'anna glad she made herself get up early enough to make coffee before class! There was no way she could have faced this sans caffeine. She swallows a large gulp of java before trying to wade into the discussion. "We communicate the desire to go to bed with someone though touch, eye contact, gestures, and words. Ideally, a non-sexual intimacy will have been developed prior to sexual activity. Poor communication can lead to an...unsatisfactory encounter at best and disease or parenthood at worst." Though she began her statement perfectly fine, her cheeks are quite flush by the time she finishes.

An unsatisfactory encounter...very diplomatic way to put that D'anna. I hear what you're saying about sex and intimacy...keep going.

D'anna cringed on the inside, but was determined to keep up with the discussion as long as possible. At least she pulled the right shirt (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v722/no_chocolate/FH/taft.jpg) out of the draw this morning. "In which direction exactly, Miss?"

Whichever you like...you have the freedom to say what's on your mind.

Rory sighs and takes a seat with her coffee.

"At this age, we tend to mistake physical closeness for real intimacy. And so, we make poor choices in order to be physically closer to people who want to be able to care about. And as a relationship does become more intimate, I think that sex as well changes."

[ooc: New icon?]

[ooc: Went on an icon purge-and-binge last night. I have THREE new ones!]

[ooc: The braids one is cute! *goes to look at icons*]

[ooc: Thanks! Technically, it's Alexis NOT playing Rory...but it's not like you'd know if I didn't tell you. :)]

Would a mistake like that constitute a dysfunction, Rory?

"Not...dysfunction, I don't think," Rory replies pensively. "Poor judgement. But if mistakes like that persist, or a relationship doesn't recover from the error in judgement, then I think there's definite potential for dysfunction."

Frell no, I'm not ready for a narl. I'm still a narl myself. But my DNA's not compatible with most species so I don't really havta worry 'bout that.

You tell 'em you want to have sex by, you know, sayin' it. ::shrugs:: But I guess you...you could imply it too by flirting and touch.

::tilts head:: Just because you...you have sex with someone, doesn't make 'em "family." Or even close. Sex is sex. But yeah, there's a difference between havin' it with someone you just met and somebody you care about, that you know well. I wouldn't say it's necessarily *better*, just... just different. That's where the intimacy comes from, I guess.

Tell me your thoughts on sex without intimacy, Chiana. Some cultures frown upon sex outside of marriage...others see it as strictly biological. Others still find sex without consequences damning and feel you should at least experience emotional turmoil. How is it where you're from/ [She is genuinely curious. Chiana always has the most interesting perspective]

Well, I ::laughs:: I gotta say first that I might be, uh, a little bit of an exception, or they wouldn't call me a tralk back there. But, yeah, this...this is definitely a repressed culture when it comes to sex. We still have marriage or beings that mate for life and all that, but, uh, I guess there's... there's less of an expectation of that I guess. Alot of the times sex is...sex is more recreation then procreation. And as for...for only havin' it when your married? ::shrugs:: As long as it's not with somebody else's mate, I've found that nobody much cares when you have it.

::frowns:: I wouldn't say it's without consequences though. I mean, we don't have much in the way of disease, so we don't havta worry about, uh, whatcha call it, STDs? ~~Unless your government happens to infect you with 'em without you knowing.~~ But there's still the chance of gettin' pregnant when you don't want it, if you're compatible, or, say, hurtin' your fiance by frelling somebody else. And while most species don't really care if you frell somebody outside your species? Some really really hate it. Like, the...the male I used to be with. He married and had a kid with this female of a different species, and her brother hated it so much that he... that he killed her and framed him for her murder.

Parker makes a face, then presents the first letter she and Lee snarked on on Tuesday.

TO: Charles Parker, CEO, The Centre, Blue Cove, Delaware
FROM: M. Parker, future CEO, the Centre; currently at Fandom High

Mr. Parker:

You are cordially invited to attend meetings with the administrators and teachers at Fandom High, re: your daughter's 4.0 standing, and her future plans as a Captain of Industry. Lodging will be made available for you in town. A visit at your convenience would yield exciting business opportunities in meeting the parents of other students.

I remain your, etc., etc.

[Stunned] That's interesting ethos and logos, Parker. But the pathos is lacking...and I get the feeling that's the way you mean for it to be. Fine job.

Parker grins. "Thanks. I already sent him a real letter weeks ago, but..." She shrugs. "He always reads the business letters first. Here's the other one."

Sydney--

My teachers want to meet you and ask if I was always this difficult. You should probably attend the Parents' Weekend and tell them it's not your fault. Tell the lab rats they're lucky they're not here. Oct 28-30, and leave the Sweeper Team at home.

See you soon--

Parker

[Laughing lowly} Oh, so there's your pathos. Very good, Parker. Thank you.

*Elizabeth hands CJ her coffee with a smile.*

I'm sorry I missed class yesterday, Professor. Unfortunately, I had a migrane. [ooc: Mun's power cable died and was unable to bribe housemate for laptop access]

Sex is something which has this whole social stigma surrounding it, whereas it doesn't really deserve it. At it's basic level, this is how we reproduce... we wouldn't be here without it.

But admittedly, most sex that goes on is for the sake of sex. I personally believe that there needs to be some personal intimacy behind it before you hop into bed with each other.

Lily is interested in hearing the other students' answers. Having a significant lack of experience in this area, she doesn't have much to add.

Veronica is uncomfortable with this line of questioning and most emphatically does not want to share her own experiences in this area.

Allie listens curiously as she has no personal experience in this area.

[[Logan is glad he skipped class today, as that would have been mega-awkward.]]

[wimp - the kids need a date this weekend - what's your schedule like?]

[[ Lane's busy Friday night, so Saturday would be best, but Sunday works also. I really want there to be a mini-golf place in town. Wouldn't that be the cutest date ever? ]]

[V & Lor are busy Friday at this point, so Saturday is fine with me. And OMG YES to the mini-golf. We must retain most ~~likely to induce a diabetic coma~~ adorable status :)]

Sydney reads hers and it's pretty good, though awkward since her dad was the dean.

Sydney remains silent, keeping her hand on her stomach, the entire time.

Piper sits in the back listening to the discussion, unwilling to share her thoughts on the subject.

There's no one way to tell someone you want to have sex with them. It all depends on the people and the circumstances and millions of other details that no ever thinks about until it's too late.

I don't think sex is everything it's cracked up to be though. I mean sure, it's fun, but it's not the pinnacle of everything. In my experience sex is usually just a way for two people to have fun and get their happy. It's ~~a hell of~~ a lot scarrier talking to someone about something important to you. Of course you're vulnerable during sex but that's just physical really.

As for family no one is ever ready for a family. No matter what someone says or plans you can never really be ready for something like that. The second you're holding that baby everything changes, you suddenly realize that this tiny, wriggling, helpless thing is completely and utterly dependent on you and that whatever you do, no matter how small, will affect his life... And everything else goes right out the window.

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*Lindsey's letter is not terribly interesting, but at least it's done*

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*Like so many of his classmates, Lindsey is not terribly talkative on this subject*

Anya arrives late, but is quick to throw her two cents in.

"I think that sexual encounters come with attraction," she says.

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